This is a new era with liberal thoughts and I totally admire and support the kind of liberty that has come through. This era often referred to as “Millennial era” has freshness of freedom and simplicity.
As the time has changed, we can clearly see the difference in parenting style in comparison to what we experienced while we were growing up.
I am a total fan of beautiful family system and simplicity that life had in 80s -90s. Entertainment meant enjoying movie on your small black and white tv with your family members. Outings meant picnic in same park every year but still creating new excitement every time.
There were a lot of basic principles that our parents followed during that time, which if followed now can give a good health and upbringing to our kids.
There are a few I totally swear by:
- Eating at home: I remember that we rarely used to eat out and honestly we didn’t feel the need to eat out as there were not many food joints and big advertising hoardings talking about tempting junk food .Neither were there tempting TV advertisements .Eating out was meant for special occasions and ceremonies. We had choices of eating homemade authentic dishes. Our traditional food can still beat any junk food in taste and health benefits. Eating at home was no less than a celebration, all of us used to eat together, especially when my mom made something special. The fun of eating and spending time with family members always kept us close.
- Outings meant picnics in parks: Our family had this ritual of going out for picnic once in a year. We really looked forward to this time of the year. Though visit was mostly to same place but it never felt boring as we enjoyed each-others company, had food cooked by our mother and played games with our father. Such simple activities made us even more connected, our parents talked to us and this gave us wonderful opportunity to interact with each other.
- Playing meant outdoors: I remember our winter vacations were completely spent outdoors, playing and cycling with our friends. This not only helped us in proper physical but metal growth as well. The best way to make your child confidant is by letting him/her breathe in fresh air, play and interact with kids of same age group. It not only helps them to open up but also tackle conflicts and take decisions.
- Studies were not the only thing: We learned many other things apart from studies. We were taught manners and respect for everyone. We were closely attached to our culture and learned it practically. Unfortunately not a lot of kids can learn from nature like we did about plants, weather,birds and nature, most of the things kids learn today is restricted to books only whereas we learned everything practically.
- Kids were not over protected: It’s good to pamper your child but being too much protective about your child can make them feeble and less confidant. We played, fell and got up on our own. We fought with our kids and resolved things on our own. These small experiences prepared us for future difficulties and help us make decisions. This taught us to take our own decisions. It is sometime better to let your child fall and get up on their own.
There are definitely things which have changed for good but there is still a lot of things we can learn from our parents.
What is your take on this?
Believe and good things will happen to you!
Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!